Secrets and more Secrets… who doesn’t have family secrets? But what if those secrets are secreting killing you. Literally. Secrets, Negative Emotions trapped at the cellular level create disease, even cancer!
What isn’t discussed much are the effects that adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse have to deal with. As an adult survivor, I’ve learned so much about these effects, as many of them were present in my own life without me even realizing it. If you’re an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse, it may be worth your time to read up on some of these. If you were abused, even if you went through counselling or therapy, you may still have to deal with some of these issues. It’s easier to fix problems if you can identify them.
This is a list of some of the more common effects of childhood sexual abuse in adult survivors. As is true with most things, these may not all apply to you or your situation. There also may be issues with which you struggle that may not appear on this list. If you feel like you are experiencing inexplicable emotions or issues, reach out! Do something different to get different results. I’m writing this to inform and encourage you to pinpoint some issues you possibly didn’t know could be connected to abuse you may have suffered.
-Dissociation, or feeling detached, confused, or feeling like your reality is not the same as everyone else’s are quite common feelings. You may experience trouble with trust, whether it be not finding yourself able to trust, or trusting too easily. Always wondering if you are making the right decisions.
-You may have trouble establishing boundaries in relationships due to the fact that your boundaries were compromised at a young age. I had a tough time with putting up boundaries that were healthy for a very long time.
-You may experience flashbacks to the event(s) that happened to you and -Low self esteem is common in adult survivors.
-Many people feel the need to self medicate with drugs, alcohol or other addictions as a coping mechanism. Some use sex to numb others stay away from intimacy or relationships
-You may experience isolation, or a fear of intimacy with partners and many people contemplate or attempt suicide or self injury. I attempted suicide at age 15 and landed in the hospital for 3 months. No one knew what happened… When asked by the social worker if i was ever sexually abuse, i flat out said NO!
-Eating disorders may be experienced. Many adult survivors put on weight, even at the unconscious level as protection.
-Adult survivors are often susceptible to repeat victimizations because they are sometimes more likely to “accept” being a victim and some Victims often anticipate an early death.
-Extreme anxiety or panic attacks are often caused by childhood sexual abuse.
-Difficulty concentrating, comprehending, or answering simple questions are symptoms.
-Many experience feelings of social withdrawal, or the inability to relate to others.
-Sometimes adult survivors may have sexual fantasies about raping or abusing others.
-The opposite is also true – many experience fantasies about being raped, tortured, or abused and a Fear of medical procedures is common.
-Constant grief or mourning are common among adult survivors of sexual abuse because of the loss of innocent, childhood, normal relationships as a child, and trust.
-Guilt may be felt due to the fact that you possibly experienced physical pleasure at the time of the abuse.
-The silence that surrounds abuse can lead to feelings of shame.
-Depression is common.
-Feelings of extreme anger or inexplicable rage are common.
-Gastrointestinal distress, nausea, and chronic pelvic pain can be present.
-Headaches or migraines are common among survivors.
-Asthma and/or breathing problems can occur.
-Unreleased stress can lead to back or skeletal pain. Keeping emotions in creates chronic pain.
-Victims are twice as likely to be smokers, and more likely to be physically inactive and overweight/obese.
-Severe gag reflex has been reported, even when nothing is in the mouth.
There are many more after-effects of childhood sexual abuse that adults may experience. There is a solution, something different to do if you are open. After 30 years of medications, depression, anxiety, pain and going through therapy, i thought nothing would work for me. Until i found different techniques such as Time Line Therapy(R), NLP and Hypnosis… everything is stored in our unconscious mind, wouldn’t it make sense to work with this part of our brain to get results? YES.
Lynn Thier will get you there ~ with practical cutting edge methods for making positive shifts, change and performance. Owner of Results Coaching, Consulting & Training, Lynn teaches and consults on how to make change happen. Lynn offers seminars, training’s and programs. Lynn also works with individuals suffering with mental health issues such as Anxiety, Depression & Trauma. Connect today ~ www.lynnthier.com