How do you live your life? At cause or at effect? It is important to be aware of this distinction. It is the rare individual who always lives his or her life at cause, however far too many of us live a large portion of our lives at effect – responding to the whims, desires or emotional states of others, or perhaps not taking responsibility… Do you have results OR reasons and excuses. People have a hard time hearing the truth sometimes.
Some may not like what i have to say here, and that’s ok… because i’m also on the Effect side sometimes and have to remind myself – am i making excuses or blaming someone outside of me? OR am i taking responsibility?
Being at cause means that you are decisive in creating what you want in life and take responsibility for what you have achieved or will achieve. If your goal is to lose weight, who’s responsability is it to change your lifestyle, your diet and your exercise or lack thereof.?
You see the world as a place of opportunity and you move toward achieving what you desire. If things are not unfolding as you would like, you take action and explore other possibilities. Above all, you know you have choice in what you do and how you react OR respond to people and events.
If you are at effect you may blame others or circumstances for your bad moods lack of willpower, eating that junk food or for what you have not achieved for your life in general. You may feel powerless or depend on others in order for you to feel good about yourself or about life – If only my spouse, my boss, my coworkers, my parents, my children, … understood me and helped me achieve my dreams or helped me to lose weight or went to the gym with me or did what I wanted or what is best for me, then life would be great.
If you wait and hope for things to be different or for others to provide, then you are at effect or a victim of circumstances. And really, how much fun is that? And how much fun do you think it is for others to be around you? Believing that someone else is responsible or making them responsible for your happiness, your health or your different moods is very limiting and gives this person some mystical power over you, which can cause you a great deal of anguish.
Being at cause means you have choices in your life – you can choose what is best for you! You can chose to eat healthy foods, exercise daily and get the results you want. We can also help with NLP techniques and hypnosis to work with your unconscious mind to help you get those results.
Those who live their lives at effect often see themselves or live their lives as victims with no choices whatsoever. The irony is that they do have choice and they have chosen not to choose but to be responsive to whatever is given to them.
Do I always live my life at cause? No, not a chance. The vast majority of the time I live at cause. And thanks to NLP, I am able to quickly identify those times when I am living my life at effect. To get back on track, I realize that I always have choices in my life and one of the following NLP Presuppositions usually comes to mind: ‘There is no failure only feedback’ or ‘There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states’. NLP techniques, provide me with the mental resources I require and I am able to explore other ways to achieve my outcomes or ask others for help, without being a victim.
And NLP is Much more than that! You can be in charge of your own destiny, life by choosing to do so.
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About: Lynn Thier will get you there ~ with practical cutting edge methods for making positive shifts & change happen. Owner of Peak Performance Academy, Lynn teaches and consults on how to get mentally fit in sport, business and life. Lynn specializes in helping people release and shed unwanted weight – physical, emotional and mental weight that is holding them back or making them feel stuck in life.